Jim Peterson tells us that there are three elements of personality involved in making any significant decision. They are the emotions, the intellect, and the will.
For example, two people meet. They are immediately attracted to one another. They both say to themselves, “Now there is someone I'd like to marry."
At that point, if the emotions had their way, there would be a wedding. But the intellect intervenes, questioning the impulsive emotional response. Would we be compatible? What is he or she really like? Can I afford to support him or her? Both conclude it would be better to take some more time and answer a few questions before they proceed. So the two begin spending more time with each other. They decide to marry. Now their intellect has sided with the emotions on the idea of marriage.
But the final and heaviest vote remains to be cast — that of the will. It stops the march toward the altar with the questions, "Am I willing to give up this lifestyle for another? What about my freedom — is it worth the trade? Am I willing to assume the added responsibility?"
The marriage will occur only when the will finally agrees with the emotions and the intellect. And so it is in developing a relationship with God.
Wishing you much love and much light.