Have you heard of the book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman? The book has become a classic over the years. It has sold more than 11 million copies to date.
The “love languages” are an attempt to help each person determine what kind of love expression by their significant other makes them feel loved and cared for. I will list the five and give examples based on what I experience regularly with couples who are seeking better sharing and receiving of romantic love.
- WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: These people need to hear the words “I love you” sincerely offered. Thanking, congratulating, complimenting are verbal love affirmations. Other ways to love this way are leaving a loving note to be found and sending a text just to say you are thinking of that person.
- QUALITY TIME: Giving your partner undivided attention is needed here. Date nights, going to bed together, a short getaway, cocktail conversation on the porch are ways to have quality time.
- RECEIVING GIFTS: Buying something special that is meaningful to your partner is important here. Such gifts may or may not be of the expensive variety depending on the taste/wants of a particular partner.
- ACTS OF SERVICE: These people appreciate you doing certain thoughtful things that say you are thinking and caring for that person. Filling your partner’s gas tank, picking up dry cleaning, washing the car would be examples of acts of service.
- PHYSICAL TOUCH: These people value more body touches. Cuddling, always kiss hello and goodbye, a gentle run of the neck or massage, hand holding, a caressing hug, a sweet kiss all are welcomed by this person.
Respected Reader, have you chosen your favorite type(s)? I have three of these “languages”. It is important to know yourself in many areas and this one is important for a healthy romantic exchange between you and your beloved. Know yours, and your partner’s, communicate, and deliver the understood love language(s) with each other.
“The unexamined life is not worth living” Socrates