Children entitlement is a topic oft discussed these days. Many parents are so sure their child is going to be the next great athlete, dancer/singer, (you name the category) that they miss an important aspect of parenting. Chores for kids are a missing element in many homes. Entitlement parents often are “Helicopter” parents who stay on top of kids a bit too much. Scholarship and performance are pushed, often to the neglect of chores. There is room for chores!
Meghan Overdeep has written an essay as to why kids that do chores end up being more successful than those that live the entitled life. She quotes Judith Lythcott-Haims of Stanford University as to the value of chores for character building. Lyathcott-Haims found that not only are people who did childhood chores happier later in life, they also become better employees. Kids raised doing chores know how to collaborate with their coworkers.
Chores such as doing the dishes, washing their own clothes, taking out the garbage, cutting the grass, keeping their room clean, etc… help kids learn that work, often undesirable, is a part of life. They learn that being a successful adult means slogging through tasks that they don’t want to do.
It is not just the “helicopter” driven parents who usually omit the chores. The uninvolved parents not only often don’t have their kids do chores, but often don’t do the necessary championing of their kids grades and extra-curricular activities. They let their kids slack off, letting the TV be their babysitter and entertainment.
Parents have a responsibility to give the kids they brought into the world every chance to succeed. Chores are a part of getting the kids ready for a responsible give-it-their-all” approach to life.
Respected Reader, do you have kids that are at an age where chores are a part of their character development? Do you have your kids doing chores? If so, which ones? If not, why not? Do you know other people who perhaps could use a reminder of this important parenting piece? If so, pass this on.
“The unexamined life is not worth living” Socrates.