One of the more challenging situations in my clinical practice is to observe a person needing empathy from his or her partner and not receiving it. Thus, an important emotional bond is not forthcoming.

I am a Beatle fan. I often am taking one of their songs and dissecting the lyrics to understand what the lyricist wrote and to see what application to life it may suggest. The Beatles often tell stories with their songs and “Nowhere Man” is one of them. Who is he? Is he you or someone close …

Ever had your heart broken? Most people have had a taste of that emotional impact and downturn. Some people never get over it and stay stuck in their lonely world. Others look for ways to move forward, releasing the pain of rejection, and re-opening their hearts to hope for a good relationship.

I am all about self inventory, as my concluding Socratic statement suggests. I believe strongly in self examination. So, Respected Reader, I bluntly ask you to know yourself better by determining why you are a good person. If you are not one, perhaps you could make a conversion! There are a …

Respected Reader, my goal in writing these articles is to inspire, educate, and stimulate thinking about topics that hopefully lead to greater understanding and connection within yourself and with others. Sexual orientation and lifestyle of the LGBTQ community are not well understood and acc…

For those of you who follow my writings you know that I strongly encourage people to be more aware, attuned — more conscious. To the extent that you develop high consciousness to that extent you are able to participate in life at a deeper and more profound level.

One of the things I enjoyed about being a psychotherapist is listening to people as they share with me how they are living their lives. Some are overworked, exhausted, while many others are bored and have a life of ennui. 

PTSD, Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, is a reality and is not understood by many. It is a mental health condition that can be triggered by experiencing or witnessing something traumatic. Many people think PTSD as a disorder that only military veterans deal with, but it also occurs in reactio…

Respected Reader, have you ever been hurt by someone? Of course you have. Are you still mad at that person? Forgiven? Many hurts from people are normal over the course of life. How you react to those infractions determines much about your mental health, and physical health as well. 

The field of Psychology is the scientific study of people – how they think, feel, and behave. This analysis leads to various classifications and categories. Examples are optimist/pessimist, controller/pleaser, extrovert/introvert, etc… . 

In today’s parlance, you will hear many people say I am spiritual, but not religious. Others will say spirituality is inherent in their religious faith. I would like to add some clarity regarding these two perspectives. Your spiritual and/or religious beliefs say a lot about you. They help d…

Emotional neglect, abandonment, is more pervasive than most people realize. Why? Because it is “invisible.” Parental connection, meeting your emotional needs, is not something done unto you, rather it was what you did not receive. Thus, there is no conscious memory of this experience. Howeve…

In many families there is that “angry” kid who just seems mad so often. S/he is defiant, particularly with authority figures, often lashing out. This dynamic within the family is stressful, and occasionally dangerous. This type of be behavior is called Oppositional Defiant Disorder. (ODD) Th…

One of the more frustrating, oftentimes angering, parts of my profession is watching parents doing a poor job of parenting. A child is unbelievably influenced by what is going on with his/her parents and the way they parent the child. Scott Bender has written about seven aspects of family li…

You have probably heard the expression, “what part of no do you not understand?” Saying “no” oftentimes is not easy for various reasons. Or, receiving a “no” from another may not be easy to digest. The focus in this writing is the “power of no” in a romantic relationship. This can be a compl…

Teenage years. Remember yours? Have you raised teenagers? Are you now? The teen brain goes through an incredible growth period on its way to full maturity. I want to share some information on this phenomenon so that a greater understanding may lead to some enlightenment and possible behavior…

Oftentimes, I hear a person  in my office say, “I shouldn’t feel that way,” I don’t like that I have these bad feelings.”

 

Happiness is a desired goal. How to reach it may present challenges, depending on a multitude of factors. Recognizing the challenges and being proactive in seeking direction and finding pragmatic solutions are key parts toward developing a life of happiness. Hopefully, each of you, Respected…

Everyone strives to be happy. Not everyone is happy. Perhaps you, Respected Reader, are not as happy as you could be. 

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