Perhaps you have heard of the song, “Colder Weather” by Zac Brown. This song, one of Zac’s biggest hits,” has some interesting lyrics with varying interpretations. I would like to share some of the lyrics of the song and how it relates to developing and sustaining a quality romantic relationship.

“He said I want to see you again, but I’m stuck in colder weather. Maybe tomorrow will be better. Can I call you then. She said you’re a ramblin’ man. You ain’t gonna change. You gotta a lot of gypsy soul to blame. And you were born for leavin’.”

The song was written by Wyatt Durrette, in collaboration with Zac. It is based on Durrette’s difficulty in hooking up with his girlfriend. The “colder weather” was getting in the way. So what is “colder weather.” I see it all the time in my practice. I believe it stands for anything that gets in the way of developing and executing a plan to put the relationship as a top priority. In this case it appeared to be a combination of loving his career, a busy travel schedule, “cold feet,” and weather that made hooking up all the more difficult.

To make a relationship work you must see it as a top priority. Other factors cannot be as important. When you are in “colder weather,” other things can slow down, stifle, and destroy a potential relationship. Sometimes it is a career path that makes a relationship difficult to sustain. Sometimes it is an intimacy issues — you don’t want to let anyone close to your heart. Sometimes it is a fear of commitment — not really ready to commit to one person. Sometimes it is finances, geography, or family, or … . These types, usually men, send mixed messages to a partner that can be confusing and lead the partner to stay in the relationship when the wise thing would be to get away from this “player.” His message, “It’s a shame about the weather. I know we’ll be together. And I can’t wait ’til then. I can’t wait ’til then,” is meant to keep the woman in the game. Talk is cheap!

The emphasis of this writing is to ask you, Respected Reader, whether you are “stuck in colder weather” relative to moving a relationship forward. What is your “colder weather”? Have you identified it or do you need some assistance with that from a qualified relationship professional? Are your “colder weather” issues real or an excuse for not moving forward in a relationship that has potential?

P.S. If you are in a relationship with a person suffering from “colder weather,” you might want to assess how long you want to settle-suffer-survive in such a relationship. 

Dr. Stathas can be reached at 706-473-1780. Email: jstathas13@gamail.com. Website:  drstathas.google pages.com. Blog: drstathas.com

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